Rodger—
I am a very gregarious person. When I am in a line waiting to go into a movie or in Starbucks having a cup of coffee, I chat with the man or woman in front of me or at the next table. A lot of times, this leads to me touching the person on the knee or on the back or on the arm.
I think this is a charming part of who I am—who doesn’t want a gregarious girlfriend? But my boyfriend finds it annoying. He tells me I can talk and touch women like this but not men. I tell him he is immature and has to accept me for who I am. Who is right?
Touchy Girl
Dear Touchy Girl~
It’s up to the two of you to decide what’s acceptable & what isn’t. Two people who are in a relationship have to develop their own customized rules vis-Ã -vis their behavior.
I probably should stop with the previous paragraph, but I’m going to go the next step & say I think your boyfriend would be on solid ground saying that you touching other men is going too far. Chatting, yes; touching, no.
Rodger
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i for one am really glad you wrote your second paragraph too - it is great for an experienced person in relationships like you to offer us readers general principles - but we really need to specific do or don't advice too
I dislike anyone touching me and I definitely would not want my boyfriend touching other people. And that goes quadtruple for random people who you don't even know other than by sitting beside them at Starbucks.
i completely agree with your advice - absolutely no touching of strangers of the opposite sex - only relatives or close friends not even coworkers
If this girl is a toucher by nature, I dont see why she would have to change this part of who she is. The boyfriend should just has to get over it.
every day when i read your advice i look at it from a gay man's perspective - most of the time the situation is the same for me as for the women that right in - today though it is not the same at all - a gay boyfriend who was always pawing around on other men would never work!
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