Rodge—
I know that it is unwise to date someone you work with because if the relationship goes bad, so will the job. But what about dating a neighbor?
Specifically, I just bought my first house. The guy next door and I have chatted and he has helped me out with household problems such as cutting the branch off a tree. I would like to ask him out, but I fear that if the dating ends badly, then I will have tension with someone living right next door, not to mention losing my handy man.
Defining Dating Boundaries
Dear Defining Dating Boundaries ~
It’s not off limits to date either a coworker or a neighbor. The “No Trespassing” sign pops up only if you’re talking about dating your boss or employee, or your landlord or tenant.
As for the possibility of a relationship with a neighbor going south, yes, you should proceed with caution & consider the potential negative consequences before asking out the guy. But as long as you & he are both mature adults who know what you’re getting into (and what you may eventually have to get out of), there’s no reason why you shouldn’t take the risk & give it a shot.
Rodger
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A person should be very, very cautious with an arrangement like this. Things can get very nasty and the man can make your life miserable if he is living right next door.
This is a bad kind of situation to get yourself into. I would never do it.
i get the feeling there is sort of a generation gap between old chicks like elaine and karen who are super cautious and always worrying about the hazards that could mess up a relationship so they screech "don't date him" - then there are the younger girls like me who are willing to take a chance and aren't scared of every potential little things
its silly to rule out dating a neighber because that would also be the same rule that rules outdating a coworker - if you cant date someone you live near or someone you work with that eliminates most of the people we come in contact with in our life!
today's post and the various comments provide a wonderful example of why you're so good at giving advice - you gave a measured, reasonable response to a serious question - since then various older women and younger woman (clearly) have gone back and fourth on whether they think the girl should or should not do what you suggested she do - but your response still holds up because it was measured and reasonable - you told her to be cautious which is really what the older commenters are saying but to proceed with asking the guy out, if the girl wants to after she thinks about it, which is what the younger women are saying - for this reason i think you should seriously reconsider ending the blog!
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