Dear Rodger:
I have been in a relationship for three years. Throughout this time I have always been the dominant partner. For instance, when I was offered a job in a new city that required us to move, my SO readily gave up his job and relocated with me. I am always dominant in lesser decisions too such as what restaurants we go to.
The only time we ever switched roles is when his parents said they did not like me because they do not think a woman should be so dominant. I then told my SO that if he did not stand up to them, I was ending the relationship. As soon as I told him that he immediately told me to get in the car and we drove right over to their house and he told them that if they did not accept me he was going to choose me over them. He could not possibly have performed better than he did.
Is all this a red flag that should be telling me to end the relationship?
Dominant Partner
Dear Dominant Partner ~
Let me see if I understand you correctly.
You generally like to make decisions, & your SO is fine with that.
But when you insist that he stands up for you, he does that.
And you are asking if these circumstances should cause you to end the relationship?
No, don’t end the relationship.
Instead, clone the guy & make a zillion dollars!!!
Rodger
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8 comments:
So many of these young girls don't know what they want in a man, nothing seems to satisfy them!
clone the guy! LOL! i agree!
this dominance issue is huge today - so many of us women want to dominate and a lot of men are fine with it - i had a BF awhile back who was okay with me deciding absolutely EVERYTHING - i eventually gave up on him though because there were times when i wanted him to make a decision and he just wouldn't or couldn't do it - i don't think any of us wants to make every single decision always
It is very significant that the one time that this man stood up and forced an issue was when his parents were involved. I bet the problem is not that he does not want to be dominant but that he wants to strike back at his parents for some past either real or perceived grievance against them.
i want one of these cloned models for Xmas, he sounds perfect--
i couldn't handle being dominant all the time the way this girl seems to want - i like it when a man makes decisions because that is the man's role
i'd like to order one of these clones for christmas, too--only i want a gay one! LOL!
Based on my relationship experience which is considerable, this sort of relationship where one person is dominant consistently does not work in the long run. Two people need to switch back and forth about who decides what or else the one who never has a say eventually becomes resentful and walks away--or else is miserable.
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