Rodger:
My fiancé is a handsome man with a wonderful body. I get very irritated when other women and gay men leer at him. He never leads any of these people on, he just politely turns away when one of them tries to engage him in conversation or find an excuse to touch him. Short of hanging a sign around his neck that says “Taken” how can I get these droves of men and women to stop or at least get myself to stop being irritated. Sometimes it makes me so angry when this happens at a party or a dinner that my entire evening is ruined by my anger inside.
Engaged to a Hunk
Dear Engaged to a Hunk ~
So you’re engaged to a man who is so attractive that he transforms admiring gay men & straight women into fools who throw themselves at him . . . & you expect to get sympathy out of me? (You clearly don’t know much about gay men!)
Now that I’ve gotten my snarky comment out of the way, I’ll try to say something helpful.
As with virtually every reaction we have to some stimulus, you either have to accept yours as something you cannot change or have the courage to change it.
My belief is that your particular “burden” falls into the second category. So, suck it up & accept that others are going to continue to admire your fiancé. While sucking it up, remind yourself how fortunate you are that he doesn’t respond to those admirers but deals with them with a level of maturity that you need to emulate.
Rodger
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i'm totally with Rodger on this one: you get no sympathy from me, girl! suck it up and enjoy your hot man, and stop complaining
what i find remarkable is that your BF does not respond to these admiring girls at least by flirting back with them. every BF i have ever had has been quick to take up other girls on there offers when they come along and my BFS have not been that good looking.
based on my experience dating gay men the really handsome ones are trouble - they are way more interested in themselves than in anybody else including me - avoid them
this jim dude is an idiot! a gay dude who only dates ugly dudes because he wants them not to leave him--total idiot!
The problem in these circumstances is not when the husband is slightly more attractive than the woman but when the husband is much, much, much more attractive than the woman.
this is one quandry about dating that i definitely have never considered - intersting
nevermind what other gay jerks have said this is a huge problemo in the gay world because so many men put so much value on looks - a man tries as best he can to hook up with a handsome man and then he competes with him or dumps him because other men pay attention to him
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