Rodger—
I married my husband three months ago because we share the same values and I knew he would make a good husband and a good father, conclusions I came to after we had dated for three years. But now I met this new guy at work who I have great chemistry with. From his first day on the job a month ago, we just clicked (in a way my husband and I never did) because we like the same TV shows and the same restaurants where we go for lunch (not just me and him, a group of us from the office). My husband and I do not like the same shows and rarely both like the same restaurant. Did I make the biggest mistake of my life? And if I did, what do I do now?
Questioning Newlywed
Dear Questioning Newlywed ~
Let me make sure I’ve got this right.
You spent three years getting to know a man so well that you made a lifetime commitment to him because you & he share the same values . . . but you’re now thinking about kicking him to the curb, a mere three months after marrying him, because you’ve run into a guy who likes the same TV shows & lunch spots as you do?
Either you’re not listening to yourself or you’re another of my readers who ate an extra bowl full of stupid for breakfast this morning!
In case you're not clear on my advice: Stick with your husband & your commitment.
Rodger
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6 comments:
and people say that gay men are fickle--
this woman is an idiot!
I agree that Questioning Newlywed comes across as somewhat foolish if she is seriously considering divorcing her husband to carry on with a new guy in her office, but I do not think it is necessary to denigrate her as an idiot. she has a legitimate concern and maybe it will help her to hear someone advise her to hold tight on to her marriage committment.
what this girl describes is completely feasible - there are a lot of girls who marry a guy (or guys who marry girls or guys) who does not match her every interest precisely - then when she crosses the path with someone who does like the same things that she does why wouldnt she let it cross her mind that he would be a good match for her?
the letter from today really frightens me - not because of the answer, which was good but because i can totally resonate with the newleywed girls circumstantial - we have to decide at some point if this is a man i can see making it as a good husband and daddy to my children i want to have - he dresses bad or he is ignorant about some parts of life - but stil he makes it for a good daddy and hubby so i marry him - and then why wouldnt i be tempted to think i made a big mistake when i find a guy who might not be a good daddy but i would like to spend time with - its hard and it frightens
This girl definitely ate the "bowl filled with stupid" that you suggested she ate.
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