Dear Rodger,
My fiancé and I have made the arrangements for our wedding. We reserved a church for the ceremony and a hotel for the reception, we hired a DJ, we hired a photographer and a videographer, we ordered the flowers and we ordered the cake. Everything is set for 14 months from now. But I have just learned I am 2 months pregnant.
We very much want to have the baby, but we have already paid deposits for all these things totaling something like $10,000, plus we have hired all these people like the photographer who turned down other couples who wanted to hire him for the day of our wedding.
Now What?
Dear Now What? ~
Lucky you!
Not only have you found each other—something that millions of people never succeed in doing—but the two of you are also having a baby you want & you will love—something that millions more people only dream of.
My advice is that you have a civil ceremony tout suite & have your baby on schedule. Then turn your planned wedding into a big-ass celebration of . . . well, your good fortune both on finding each other & on welcoming your child into the world!
Rodger
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7 comments:
i am so glad your response today was such a positive one - it is very appropriate on this day of history making and progress in our society
a former GF and i faced this exact same situation except our wedding was not going to be as lavish as this one - i wanted to get married right away but she was so in love with the idea of a big wedding and so embarrassed and so i dont know what all that she had an abortion - she didnt tell me she was doing it until it was already done - i was so pissed that she did that without talking to me first that we split up over it - what you adviced this girl to do makes a helluva lot more sense than what that bitch did to me
I just read Mike's comment. How poignant. And how very, very sad.
at least this is one problem that us gay men don't have to worry about - no surprise pregnancies!
At least this Mike guy found out about his faince before he got married. A lot of us don't know the dark side of who we are marrying until we have all ready tied the knot and then we ha to go though the pain of a divorce.
this is mike posting again - its true that i found out what a bitch my GF was before we got married so im glad of that but she still killed a fetus that would have been my child which tears me apart to know that
i know everybody does it but its ridiculous to plan a wedding 14 months in advance - how do we even know if youll still want to get married to that same person when its that far in advance - it will be no more than a year for me i sware
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