Dear Rodg,
I’ve been happily married for 30 years, and I love my husband very much. But I have one problem: He has TONS of body hair (I call him Furry, but lovingly). This normally doesn’t bother me—it’s usually covered up—but when we go to the beach I about die, not to mention that I’m always afraid he will scare the children playing on the beach. What to do? Insist that he wear a T-shirt when he’s there? Waxing (he’d NEVER do that!)? Please advise—we have a trip to South Beach coming up soon.
In love with a Neanderthal,
Jane
Dear Jane ~
In a recent response, I said that couples move through the honeymoon & disappointment stages of their relationships, with the lucky ones eventually reaching the success stage. Part of that success, I believe, hinges on the fact that those of us who reach that final stage have come to accept certain “idiosyncrasies” about our partners.
For example, I have a penchant for buying decorator items while we’re on vacation that Tom absolutely abhors because they’re, uh, well: butt ugly. And yet, over the years, he’s learned not merely to accept this idiosyncrasy of mine but to embrace it as part of who I am . . . although I should point out that every one of these items has ended up in my office on campus rather than in Tom & my home.
My point is that if you’ve been married to Hairy Man for 30 years, you should already have come to accept—hopefully even embrace—his hairiness as part of who he is. And I’m guessing he loves you even more for doing that.
As for frightening the children, based on my last trip to the beach, some of the tattoos they’ll see are way scarier than Hairy Man.
Rodger
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I really cannot understand this woman's problem. If she has been married to her husband for 30 years she should be used to his "tons of hair" a long time ago. It should not be an issue today.
I forgot to say though that the advice she was given was good. I like the whole success stage idea.
I AGREE WITH THE FIRST COMMENT THAT THE WOMAN MARRIED TO THE HAIRY GUY SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN PAST HER DISCOMFORT A LONG TIME AGO. SHE SHOULD NOT, AT THIS STAGE BE THE LEAST BIT UNCOMFORTABLE WITH WHAT HER HUSBAND LOOKS LIKE, NO MATTER HOW HAIRY HE IS.
I find even a little bit of hair on a guy to be unattractive. For a guy to have as much hair as this woman's husband would never work for me.
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