Dear Rodger,
I know your blog is targeted to straight women, but my straight male friends and I also read it. So I am hoping you well agree to give me some advice.
My only sibling is a sister two years older than I am. My parents have always treated us equally. They spend the same amount on us for Christmas and birthday gifts, and they paid both of our tuitions when we went to private schools for high school and college, which added up to $150,000 for each of us, even though they had to take out a second mortgage on their house.
So last year, my sister got married. She wanted a big wedding, so my parents spent just over $30,000 giving her what she wanted.
But now that I want to get married, they say I’m on my own because parents only pay for a daughter’s wedding, not a son’s. The trouble is, my girlfriend’s parents can’t afford to pay for a big wedding and neither can she or I.
Are my parents being fair?
Cinderfella
Dear Cinderfella~
Your parents are completely within their rights to opt out of paying for another expensive wedding. Indeed, they would have been perfectly within their rights not to have paid for your sister’s wedding either.
Frankly, if they’ve already shelled out $300,000 for you and your sister’s educations by taking out a second mortgage, they’ve done more than their fair share for their children.
If you & your girlfriend want to get married, an inexpensive wedding will do the job every bit as well as a lavish one.
Rodger
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6 comments:
this guy's letter really made me think about how unfair it is for a girl to have her wedding paid for by her parents and then her brother not having that same support. it really is an outdated and unfair system.
The guy is a whiner. His parents have paid plenty for him already. He should either pay for his own wedding or not get married.
The tradition has always been that the bride's parents pay for the wedding, except for the rehearsal dinner. That tradition still holds. The only part that is changing is that some couples are getting married later once their careers have started and are paying for their own weddings.
i can't believe this jerk. his folks go into debt big time to make sure he gets a good education and now he complains when they won't pay for an expensive wedding for him. KMB!
A $150,000 education was an amazing gift from his parents. The man should be ashamed of himself for asking for them to pay for his wedding too.
it makes we wonder what the bride's parents would think if they knew their future son in law was begging his parents to pay for his wedding. plus, how would they feel if their daughter and future son in law were not satisfied with the kind of wedding they could pay for so they turned to his parents when everybody knows it is the bride's parents who should pay.
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