Rodger:
I know your blog is mostly for Straight Chicks. You being a queer man though makes me hope that you also will answer questions from other queer guys. Queer guys in our 20s are totally on our own. I mean that there are other relationship counselors to talk to Straight Chicks but you are the only one I know of to talk to queer guys like me.
So my first question is about sex. I guess that is not a big surprise. A lot of queer guys have told me that we have more sex than straight men, and that is cool. But one guy told me we queers should have as much sex as we can during our 20s because queer guys pretty much stop having sex when they turn 30. Is that true?
So many men so little time
Dear So Many Men ~
My biggest concern as I began this advice blog was that readers would ask me questions that I didn’t have an answer for. And so, I’m thrilled that your question is one that I can answer definitively with a big fat N followed by a big fat O.
That is, take it from a guy who’s been in a gay relationship for a very long time, the sex doesn’t have to stop. Indeed, I can say without hesitation that the sex between Tom & me is better now than it was 25 years ago. Honest!
The big advantage of having sex with the same person for a long period of time is that there’s none of that fumbling around trying to figure out what each of you likes. You know, “So you’re saying I drove all the way out here to the suburbs & now you tell me that all you’re willing to do on the first date is cuddle!”
My guess is that the guy who told you to have as much sex as you can in your 20s was eager to have sex with you—right now, an hour from now, an hour after that, . . . you get the picture.
Rodger
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LOL on the cuddling. i've been there. BTW to the letter writer, if you are looking for advice or whatever from another gay dude, let me know.
I find it really odd that a gay boy would ask if gay men stop having sex after 30 when I cannot imagine any heterosexual man asking such a question. They all think they are Mr. Potent until they are in their 70s at least.
The trouble is that alot of young gay men think their life will end when they turn 30. This is because the whole gay culture sends the message that if you are not young and pretty and rich, you don't count.
The entire AMERICAN culture not the gay Americdn culture sends the message that only young and pretty and rich people count.
i still think the gay culture worships youth and beauty even more than the straight world. at least straight young people expect to have a life after 30. with alot of young gay dues, they don't even think about a life beyond 3-0.
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