Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Reconnecting after a Breakup

Dear Rodger ~

I can sometimes act impulsively and then have regrets later. This happened with my last boyfriend. I got tired of him whining forever about his boss at work so I told him I didn’t want to go out with him anymore unless he either quit whining or changed jobs. He then started dating another girl I know and has since changed jobs. Now I regret breaking up with him and want him back. What should I do?

Ms. Impulsive


Dear Ms. Impulsive ~

Contact him in some way—such as by e-mail—& tell him that you made a mistake & would like to resume your relationship. If he responds & agrees, go for it. But if he either fails to respond or says he’s not interested, let it go.

And remember the lesson the next time you’re tempted to act impulsively.

Rodger

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

i didn't find this to be a very satisfying answer. if she really likes the guy she should try something a lot more aggressive than sending an e-mail.

Anonymous said...

I completely agree with the advice. Yes, she should try to make e-mail contact with the guy. Open the door and if he wants to more forward, that is great. If not, that ship has sailed.

I do not believe she should "try something a lot more aggressive." That would be foolish. If it is over, it is over.

Anonymous said...

The advice makes sense to me. The woman should make a single contact with the guy to see if he is interested in reconnecting. If he does not have that interest, she should move on with her life.