Rodger—
My BF and I are both atheists, or that is what I thought. But the other day when we were talking about if we want to have children he announces he wants our children baptized.
When I told him I did not want our children baptized and if he wanted to have them baptized then he was not an atheist at all, he kept insisting that he is an atheist. We both got frustrated by this point in the discussion so we stopped talking about it.
I think he is rationalizing and that he really is not an atheist and should not claim to be. What do you think?
Atheist All the Way
Dear Atheist ~
I think you & your boyfriend need to keep talking. Not about whether he can wear the atheist label but about whether you want to have your children baptized.
Although there’s nothing wrong with setting a topic “on the shelf,” so to speak, when two people reach an impasse or when the discussion becomes overly heated, something as important as your future children’s religious upbringing—or not—needs to be fully discussed before a couple moves toward marriage.
As for the whole rationalizing brouhaha, I’ll end this letter on a light note by asking:
Question: How is rationalizing different from having sex?
Answer: It IS possible to get through the day without sex.
Rodger
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4 comments:
your response made me LOL because i rationalize constantly and thanks to you i have a new line to rationalize my rationalizing!
I don't understand why an atheist cannot be in a relationship with a non-atheist. If we have a Catholic marrying a Muslim why can't we have this kind of arrangement?
"atheist" sounds likea 1999 word - who uses that word today?
It was good advice for you to tell her that she and her boyfriend should keep talking. It is vital for couples to agree on what they want with regard to children before they get married.
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