Dear Rodger,
The guy I have been dating for just over a year and who I have fallen in love with just told me that he has a child from a previous relationship. The child is three years old and Steve provides substantial child support every month for her.
If he had told me right after we started dating that he had a child, I would have been fine with that. But that he did not tell me until now, though, makes me wonder if I can trust him. When I asked him why he did not tell me, he said other girls he has dated refused to get involved with him when they found out he has financial responsibilities for a child.
Should I continue in this relationship or is this a deal breaker?
Am I Ready to Be a Stepmom?
Dear Am I Ready to Be a Stepmom? ~
The issue is not whether you’re ready to be a stepmom. The issue is whether you can trust a guy who concealed a HUGE detail about his life from you for more than a year.
The decision is yours, of course, but his action certainly justifies you ending the relationship, if you decide to go that route. At the very least, you need to tell him that he has seriously damaged your ability to trust him & that it will take an enormous effort on his part to regain that trust.
Rodger
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if some guy I was dating for more than a year suddenly came up with a child I knew nothing about that would definitely be the end of our dating
I am having a hard time figuring out what this guy has as his plan with women. It doesn't work out for him to tell them upfront that he has a child so he has now decided to date women for long enough that they fall madly in love with him so they will that it is okay that he has lied and deceived them for a whole year? This guy needs to think about this plan because I think it has some problems for him.
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